I’m not going to make this too long because this isn’t my band to miss but I bought a ticket for the final show only a few days after they went on sale though I’ve never been a huge fan.
Watching my friends have fun is one of my favorite things in the world. Though I stood in the back behind everyone so I could hold purses and coats and just take it all in, I knew where my friends were (and directed the lost & sweaty to the crowd). I could see their hands in the air and when they let go of their balloons. I cheered every time I saw one of my friends crowd-surfing (and when BQ was pulled on stage!).
I actually teared up during “The Space Between” and the few friends I was actually around shared looks with me. I honestly kept thinking about it as it equivalents to Baltimore and I know if I was standing in a sold out venue with All Time Low playing their last show I would be inconsolable. I’ve been seeing Valencia just as long as ATL.
I know this is a big deal for my friends and I felt happy and sad for all of them, including the guys. It is the end of an error since I know how many lives that band has touched. Valencia is part of the people I love and the city I fell in love with.
i had such a great time the other night with everyone i love. those balloons were perfect. for a while, i was in the pit by myself, but i wasnt really alone. i was with die-hard valencia fans. everyone i saw was having the best time. if i didnt spend the last valencia show in the pit, it wouldnt have been a valencia show for me.
im so thankful for all of you guys.
I want to be done with the tears, done with the anger but post importantly done talking about this situation because of how upset I am. But the last few things I have reblogged from friends, as well as this, have left me with a few thoughts. It’s people like Christine, who I only know of through other friends and have met very briefly, who I respect. As stated in the last reblog I did from Madison, who are all of these people that are now mourning this band? Who are all of these people that are now claiming their love for a band when it is no longer (as) important? The people who were at the show who have known of this band for 4+ years, but were not huge fans but still wanted to be there for their friends, thank you. Even if Valencia wasn’t your favorite band, but your friends loved them with everything in them, you felt something for this band. I respect all of you for that, for understanding what this band means to people.
I’ve been to hometown sold out Valencia shows before, so I am not surprised that this show sold out especially with the amount of travelers from all over the world. But I sit here and go through my tracked tag and see posts like “I just got into Valencia and now they’re breaking up. this is bullshit” and things like “HOW DID I NOT KNOW THAT MY FAVORITE BAND WAS PLAYING A SHOW THIS WEEKEND? I CAN’T BELIEVE IT’S THE LAST ONE.” I’m done holding back my actual feelings on the situation because now it doesn’t matter. You can’t honestly say they are your favorite band if you didn’t know they were breaking up. If you cared for that much about something, you’d know a detail like this. That’s why I respect people in Christines shoes. She even said they aren’t her favorite band, yet she bought a ticket days after the show was announced. All of you idiots who waited until the last minute to buy a ticket to see your “favorite band” and found out it sold out, I have absolutely no sympathy. If they were your favorite band, you wouldn’t have waited. You would have had complete faith that the should would sell out by the end of October, if not the middle of November. If they meant that much to you, you would search Ebay and Stubhub and not care about the price that tickets were being sold for, unless it was that ridiculous price that valencia @replied the girl about on twitter.
But moving on to the personal part of this tumblr. I was surrounded by people Wednesday night that eat, sleep and breathe Valencia. People that are going to need endless amounts of time to cope with this situation. But there were also people there who were acting this way. I won’t get into who those people were, because I’m not going to point fingers. But I will say this, out of the 2350 people in that room I have been friends/associated/introduced to probably 200/300 of them. Out of all of those people, there are some that I have known of since the start of my time with this band, and some that have just recently witnessed get into Valencia. A lot of that last group are now claiming that they are the biggest fans of this band. But I’ll say this, where the fuck were you all when they couldn’t even sell out 300 cap rooms? Where were you when they opened for bands and no one was paying attention to them? Where were you when the rest of those 300 people I know were sitting there talking to one another about how this band deserves more? When we all sat there wishing and hoping that Dancing With A Ghost would be their big break since all of our hopes for We All Need A Reason To Believe as well as the Blink 182 tour were crushed? How many of you even knew that your “favorite band” played with another band that this entire music scene claims to be their favorite band?
Like I’ve said time and time again, I’m not sitting here saying all of this to seem like my friends and I are better than anyone. That isn’t the case at all. But what I am going to say is, this is my favorite band. For the last 5 years I have dedicated a good portion of my life to making sure this band gets what they deserve. I’ve saved pay check after pay check to travel to different cities so they had fans at shows for them, and not just the headliners. My friends and I have gotten into fist fights for having a good fucking time, and showing those boys that even if no one else is having fun. My friends and I bought 5+ copies of Dancing With A Ghost to try and get their first week sales high, trying to get them a plaque for records sold. We spent hours upon hours in cars, living out of suitcases and hotel rooms, sleeping on floors, running on 4 hours or less of sleep to show our dedication to this band. Our best was never enough(pun), because we didn’t have the help of those 2350 people that sold out the electric factory. It’s nice to see that just once they could have that many people in a room just for them. But it should have happened a long time ago. It shouldn’t have taken them breaking up for people to realize they love this band.
I have never been more angry in my life about a band breaking up, but I’m not mad at Valencia. I honestly am surprised that they made it this long with the lack of support they’ve had over the years. I never thought DWAG would exist to be completely honest. The second Max left the band I figured they were close to quits. But they surprised me and they did it because they weren’t ready to throw in the towel. They understood that there were people out there who did care about them, but in the end we didn’t do enough. As much as it makes me feel like a failure, I know that there wasn’t more than any of us could have done, (us being the those friends and other people who did dedicate and love this band more than anyone else). It isn’t any of our faults. It’s those of you who are now claiming favorite. Those are the people I’m mad at, the people who are mad at the guys for calling it quits because they “didn’t get to see them”(despite how many times they’ve visited your city). I know people overseas who only had a few chances to see this band that would give anything to live in the states to dedicate their lives to them and I feel bad for those friends.
So before you sit there and get angry at Valencia for breaking up, think about how much you’ve done for this band, how much you have done to show your support and love for them. Could you have done more? Could you have prevented this from happening so soon? Put yourself in their shoes, why should you continue traveling around playing shows for 5-maybe 200 people if you’re not getting anywhere? When you’re watching bands who once opened for you get more support than you, how are you going to feel about yourself? I heard so many times from certain people “how did all time low get that big? what are we doing wrong?” It breaks my heart because as much as I do love All Time Low, if I had the choice I would put Valencia in their spots. All that I ever wanted for this band was for them to know what it felt like to have an entire sold out headlining tour. For them to play for 2 months straight to rooms with 700+ caps for people there just for them. That never happened, and it breaks my heart. I watched them work so hard for something along those lines and they never caught a break. It breaks my heart knowing that with as happy as they were for the fans they had, they were never completely happy. There was always more that they could have had. And now, it will never happen.
So to Valencia, and everyone who understands exactly where I’m coming from. Thank you for being there when no one else was. We are a family, we will always be a family even though Valencia is no more.
Also as Blair said, I was never alone in that crowd because the people that I didn’t even know that were standing next to me were feeling the show as much as I was. I was in the pit with my friends and people that were screaming their hearts out the entire night. I turned around at one point in time and saw girls standing there with their arms crossed and not singing along to well known songs. Those are the people this is towards. Those are the people that are sitting here saying they love this band but obviously don’t give any fucks about them. You are the people that I despise currently. You are all the reason that my favorite band is no longer making music. So thank you, for ruining the most perfect thing in my life.